Those in the church need to be on their guard here, recognising that Christians are abused and abusers within the bounds of the marriage relationship. The romanticising of Christian’s domination and control of Anastasia is being roundly criticised as helping to normalise attitudes that women are simply objects to possess and control. One of the major criticisms of Fifty Shades is that, regardless of the right of people to make their own private choices about what goes on in their bedrooms, no individual has the right to physically, emotionally or sexually abuse another. We must negotiate sexual fulfilment together through all of these. After all, in real life, long-term intimate relationships (which, at their best, offer the soundest base for trust and fulfilment) travel through a number of seasons. And the type of consent that is sought frequently, not the sort of ‘submissive agreement-for-all-time-and-for-whatever-I-want’ model that Christian Grey seems to expect of ‘his’ woman. But there has to be mutuality and respect. I’m of the opinion that the church has nurtured some unhelpfully prudish attitudes to sexual activity. Now, I’m not going to come at you with a list of what is and isn’t appropriate in bed. The more we expose ourselves to it, he said, the more our tolerance of it grows, and the more we require for pleasure. By continually escaping into this genre, we can start to neglect our real-life relationships, or even worse, to judge the quality of these relationships by some essentially fictional construction.Ĭhristian author and psychiatrist John White described pornography as ‘tickle and tease’, the itch you can never scratch enough. No one has to know we read it, that we’re filling our minds with material that allows our sexual expectations and aspirations to become coloured by fantasy. There’s a glut of this stuff out there-it’s easy to get online and discreet to consume on devices like Kindles. By virtually all accounts, the writing in Fifty Shades is woeful, and life is simply too short to be trapped in a bad book.īut my primary objection is that I learnt many years ago the importance of guarding my mind and imagination from so-called ‘soft pornography’ or ‘erotica’ that disguises itself as ‘romantic fiction’. The first, and lesser, of these is I’m a literary snob. Even in the interests of journalistic integrity. I haven’t seen or read either, and have no intention of doing so.
What is fifty shades of grey about movie#
Right off the bat, I confess I’m not qualified to review either the movie or the book. This involves sadism and masochism (using pain as a sexual stimulant), and Christian’s attempt to secure a contractual arrangement that Anastasia will unquestionably submit to all of his desires.
James’s story about the relationship between college graduate Anastasia Steele and billionaire businessman Christian Grey. I’m referring to Fifty Shades of Grey, E.L. There’s been a phenomenal amount of noise on social media and in some church circles about one particular movie lately.
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